You drain people mentally and physically and you don’t even know it!!!!


This Rogier coming at you with a new arcticle containing stuff I deal with out of my awesome life haha. I haven’t posted a blog in a while now and wasn’t even planning on posting this one today because I’m kind busy updating my vlog format, preparing for the launch of my new series of vlogs, school & putting a training together with some friends of mine for a company, but I kind of felt the need to put one up ( cheers for inconsistency haha). Here it is though enjoy!

When you are busy designing your own lifestyle you’re going to have to deal with other people you’re going to need their help or maybe you’re the one helping them. If we look at a macro level what occurs when people interact is the exchange of value.

Value to someone is what he believes that is important for him. Value can manifest itself in different ways for example let’s say your car is broken and someone you know knows how to fix it then that person will have value in your eyes. I call this tangible value, but you can also have non-tangible value a good example of non-tangible value is social value. When you are hanging out with your friends and you are making jokes, or when you have a problem and you need someone to listen to and you are there to listen you provide social value.

When you have a good relationship with someone its always based on an exchange of value. There are also situations that can occur where someone is only taking value and isn’t adding value. This is what we call value leeching. To be around someone that’s leeching value is mentally and physically draining. You kind of get an icky feeling when you are around them. Most of the time they don’t even know that they are doing it.

The reason I made this blog isn’t to get you to become paranoid and always be asking yourself if you are giving value in every situation, but to make it clear that when you are of value a lot more doors will open for you. People will be more willing to help you with your own goals. You might not even have direct value for them, but the fact that you are providing value in some area will make them comfortable.