Month: juni 2014

The world is a unfair place: How to use this fact in your favor!


Rogier here back again bringing you a new article. Just got back from a awesome church service in Rotterdam. You know the churches in movies where the choirs are going wild and people are singing screaming and dancing everywhere. It was exactly like that. I got so much love those kind of churches you instantly feel happy. I’m going to probably going to mix in some clips of the service in the bonus clip than you can actually see how crazy it can get.

Why the world is unfair
Getting back to the topic a lot of people think we live in a unfair world and to be honest I totally agree that we live in a unfair world, but paradoxically that’s the reason everybody has a fair shot at doing the thing they are meant to do. This probably sounds very vague when you hear so let me explain how I think about this. The reason I think the world is unfair is because everybody has a unfair advantage at something and because we have these unfair advantages we can all excel in our own little niches if we know how to make use of these.

I used to call these things talents, but it’s not the same thing. A talent can be an unfair advantage, but an unfair advantage doesn’t always have to be a talent. You can find unfair advantages in the weirdest situations.

Examples of unfair advantages
The most basic one is being born in a rich family. If your family is rich use that advantage there is no shame in using the tools that you have in front of you.

Being born in a poor family. People only see the downsides to being poor, but it also has an upside.  Let’s be honest people are conditioned to always strive to get the most out of thing, by doing the least amount of things. So when your poor and your life feels like shit and you don’t have any choice  but to go up you create leverage. When you got everything in the world handed to you it’s going to be a lot harder to take initiative and do something on your own.

The need to be significant. This is a really handy advantage to have because it doesn’t matter what you apply yourself to there will always be a need to be a significant in it. This can drive you to do some awesome things.

Being empathetic . This a very powerful advantage that’s applicable almost everywhere. When managing team for instance you can be the one that guides them when there are speed bumps.

I could talk for hours about this, but I don’t have the time for that now so on to the next subject.

Place yourself in positions where your unfair advantages flourish
When you know what your unfair advantages are and you want to make the most of them create a world around yourself where you get valued for having and using these unfair advantages.
Let’s say you are in establish rapport and persuading people then being in sales could be an obvious choice. If you are really good at analyzing then do something with researching involved, start hanging

out with people with the same interest and subscribe to magazines, books, video’s etc. so you get confronted by it constantly.


That’s all I have to say for now! I’m planning to go way more in depth about this in the future, but for now I hope this can be of help.



How to handle disappointments!


Normally I talk about achieving goals and building the live you desire, but today I wanted to talk about something different. I am here to talk about failures and disappointments. In my short life I’ve had to deal with a few disappoints that had to do with school, relationship and other stuff. They can kick you of your path by numbing you and taking away your will to do anything. It’s healthy to sulk for a while, but there is something you have to be aware of when you fail at something it’s not one action that causes it, but several little actions that led you to that point. So the decision to sulk and do nothing after you failed at something is probably one of the little actions that can put you into a downwards spiral. This is something I’ve always knew, but not on a conscious level.

So let’s say you’re in a negative spiral what do you do to get out of that. First thing you do is lower your criteria for success and aim for a small win. Just like little actions can set you up for failure they can also set you up for success. After that you have a little bit of momentum you can roll with. With that momentum you start to study failure by beginning with your own failures. Take this very serious! You can do this by looking at specific things for example your willpower and were it breaks down, a habit that’s setting you back or even external factors like distractions from people. When you have these things clear start to formulate a plan to counteract these actions.

I utilized this for everything in my life except the stuff that really mattered to me which is kind of stupid,  but now that I see it I can use it to become a better man and I hope it helps you too.


How to produce more in less time!!!

Sup peeps,

Right now I’m in my apartment rushing to upload this blog before I go outside to shoot another one. I thought I mix up things for
this post and instead of writing everything down and put up a bonus video I just put the whole thing on video. Let me know what you


Thanks for watching the video I hope it contained some value Like it did for me. I’m planning to do a lot more longer video’s, because I
kind of suck at public speaking in my opinion so I’m going to use these for practice.

That’s all for now


Notes from the video

-Actions in your life are defined by Importance and Urgence in this system.
-The actions are divided in quadrants based on there levels of importance and urgence.
-Quadrant 1 Actions that are important and urgent –  Deadlines for school, work etc.
-Quadrant 2 Actions that are important, but not urgent – These are the 20% actions that produce 80% of the results
-Quadrant 3 Actions that aren’t important, but are urgent – They don’t further your goals, but they seem urgent.
-Quadrant 4 Actions that aren’t important and aren’t urgent – activities for relaxation ( TV, trivia, listening to music etc.)
– Try to spend most of your time in quadrant 2 and your quadrant 1 obligations will go down.

Never try to impress a girl!!!


Rogier here trying to sqeeze in a quick blog. Today I wanted to talk about a topic I haven’t
really been paying attention on my blog, but quite the opposite in real life. I’m talking about dating philosphy. After getting rejected by millions of women hahaha I got a few insights about approaching women and what a lot of men (including myself for a part of the time) do wrong.

We as people are social beings and learn a lot of what we know through second hand experience. An example of this is knowing that if you get hit by a bullet you will get hurt. We don’t have to experience it. This really comes in handy because we can learn a lot in a relatively short time, but this also has a negative side especially when it comes to picking up women.

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If you look at tv programs a lot of ideas get put to the front that just aren’t true. The most typical idea I see on tv is the idea that you have to impress the girl. Trying to impress a girls is probably one of the most ineffective ways to go about picking her up, because of two things. One every girl is different so if you see a girl on the street and you start talking to her you don’t know anything about her including what might impress her. The second reason I can think of is if you’re busy trying to impress her by putting on your so called ‘cool’ or even a ‘nice guy’ character when does she get the time to know the real you.

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Now that we know this let me give you a tip that helped me a lot with this subject. Emotions are contagious! Let’s say you’re having fun with your friends and one of your friends all of a sudden says his mom died what will happen to the vibe? It will go down and everybody will feel uneasy visa versa what will happen if you are feeling a little down and a friend of yours comes barging through the door in partymode? You’ll probably get drawn into that .

You can use that when trying to pick up a girl. If you come with good emotions she will get drawn into that. Stop impressing and start trying to make yourself laugh with what you’re saying and doing. Even if it doesn’t make sense just blurt it out. Keep in mind this won’t work a hundred percent of the time their will be a lot of girls that probably won’t like your humor, but that’s a good thing because then you don’t have to waste your time with the girls you don’t connect with.

I’ve prioritized working on a project for school over this blog so there won’t be a special bonus video this week, but I intend to go
in much more depth about this subject in a later blog.

That’s all for now