This entire week I’ve been in full emersion in terms of developing my social skills from a practical point. I went out almost every day and talked to all sorts of people. After evaluating myself yesterday and today in the morning I found some stuff out about myself which I really need to work on. This short blog isn’t a how to article it’s meant to spread awareness about it. We all know uncertainty is a bad thing, but there is a difference between knowing it on a surface level and knowing it on an emotional level.
Since yesterday I’ve really been thinking about the danger of uncertainty. Uncertainty is something that not only can hurt you, but can also hurt other around you. In the last few years I’ve been uncertain in a lot of decisions I’ve made. The biggest example I can think of is a project I had to do with a group. I had an task in the group that I had a lot of difficulty with which made me very uncertain about decisions that had to be made. Instead of just making the decision and getting some feedback I stalled and started overthinking everything which gave the rest of the group less time to work on their stuff. My uncertainty was hurting them.
Another example was in my personal life a friend asked me if I wanted to go out with him and since I had a car we could drive to the place together. I really wanted to go, but I had other responsibilities elsewhere I needed to take care of. I thought I could run these errands really quick and then go out with my friend, but I wasn’t 100% sure about how late I’d be done with it. As a result of this my friend ended up waiting a really long time.
What I’m trying to say is let your yes be your yes and your no be your no. If there is a chance you can’t keep a promise express your reason for uncertainty to the people you made a promise so contingencies can be made. From now on I’m going to be working on this a lot and hopefully in the future I’ll have a lot more conviction in the actions I’m taking.
That’s all for now.