Month: maart 2014

Uncertainty not only hurts you it can hurt others

Wadup people,

This entire week I’ve been in full emersion in terms of developing my social skills from a practical point. I went out almost every day and talked to all sorts of people. After evaluating myself yesterday and today in the morning I found some stuff out about myself which I really need to work on. This short blog isn’t a how to article it’s meant to spread awareness about it. We all know uncertainty is a bad thing, but there is a difference between knowing it on a surface level and knowing it on an emotional level.

Since yesterday I’ve really been thinking about the danger of uncertainty. Uncertainty  is something that not only can hurt you, but can also hurt other around you. In the last few years I’ve been uncertain in a lot of decisions I’ve made. The biggest example I can think of is a project I had to do with a group. I had an task in the group that I had a lot of difficulty with which made me very uncertain about decisions that had to be made. Instead of just making the decision and getting some feedback  I stalled and started overthinking everything which gave the rest of the group less time to work on their stuff. My uncertainty was hurting them.

Another example was in my personal life a friend asked me if I wanted to go out with him and since I had a car we could drive to the place together. I really wanted to go, but I had other responsibilities elsewhere I needed to take care of. I thought I could run these errands really quick and then go out with my friend, but I wasn’t 100% sure about how late I’d be done with it. As a result of this my friend ended up waiting a really long time.

What I’m trying to say is let your yes be your yes and your no be your no. If there is a chance you can’t keep a promise express  your reason for uncertainty to the people you made a promise so contingencies can be made. From now on I’m going to be working on this a lot and hopefully in the future I’ll have a lot more conviction in the actions I’m taking.

That’s all for now.


Thinking of yourself as an incapable idiot is the best thing you can do!!!!

Waddup people,

Right now I’m at my mom’s house just stayed here for a day because I got problems with the internet in my apartment. I just got a call from my cousin if I wanted to do a job for him next week. The old me would have probably said yes without knowing my schedule and have a hard time keeping that promise, but what I did was check my schedule to be certain I can do it and refused the job because I have other priorities.  

This event gave me inspiration for the blog I’m now writing. A lot of motivational speakers try to get people to not underestimate there self and talk about all the potential they have. I’m not a motivational speaker nor do I tend to write about not underestimating yourself in this article. What I want to bring to your attention is that sometimes it’s a good thing to underestimate yourself especially when it comes to planning and time management.

After reading a lot about time management I came to realize that I AM A IDIOT! I have acquired an enormous toolkit of techniques I can use to organize my life and are very effective, but every now and then I still have times where my life turn into total chaos for a short time. Why is that? After evaluating the stuff I do I realized it comes from overestimating myself. Everything goes well for a while and I start to think I can remember the stuff without writing stuff down and planning when to do it. Every time I do that the same thing happens I tend to forget little things that cause an domino  effect that gradually leads to a lot of stress, missing deadlines and not keeping promises.

If you have a process that works for you to be efficient don’t let go of that(Unless you’re experimenting with creating a better process.). See yourself as a incapable idiot and things will work out hahahah.

That’s it for now. Don’t put yourself above your process and Peace!!!!!!!!!!